Enhance your Intimacy
Make sex a priority
Hectic lifestyles often mean we're too busy running from
here to there, and often by the time you hit the sheets
exhausted, sex is the last thing on your mind. But just as you make time to go
to the gym or do the weekly shop, it's important to schedule some one-on-one time with your partner. While we're not suggesting you give up spontaneity altogether, if you and your partner are finding it difficult to find time for sex, make a date and time, and stick to it.
Take turns to initiate
Lovemaking should be enjoyable for both partners, and getting things started should also be equal. If your partner is used to taking the lead and initiating sex, imagine how surprised they'll be when you take charge!
Take turns to initiate
If you're having trouble getting in the mood, have a look at your surroundings. Since the bedroom is the most common place for couples to make love in, it's important to make sure it has the right atmosphere.
Computers, unfinished work reports and pictures of the kids can all diminish the desire for sex, so find another room to house them in. And remember, scented candles, bed linen and romantic music can all go a long way to enhancing your lovemaking.
Get Sensual
A massage can be as sensual or as sexual as you like. Grab some
massage oil and start with long languishing strokes. Begin at your
partner's shoulders and work your way down the body, brushing
lightly over the genital area and inner thigh. For a more sexual
massage, use your body instead of your hands for a full-body
experience that is sure to drive you both crazy.
Start Talking
According to American sex therapist Dr Ruth Westheimer, the
number-one rule for better sex is communication. While you might
feel uncomfortable talking to your partner about your sex life, Dr Ruth
says the initial embarrassment is worth the pay-off. Talk about what
you like and don't like about your sex life, and don't be afraid to bring
up suggestions for new and different things. However, make sure you
don't initiate this conversation when you're about to have sex, or in
the middle of it - you might end up spoiling the mood.
Make a day of it
We're not suggesting that you spend the entire day under the sheets
(although that's fine if you both want to) but make lovemaking a
full-day experience. Start in the morning with a lingering kiss instead
of the usual peck before heading to work, and throughout the day
phone or SMS your partner to let them know what's in store when you
both get home from work. When you get home, don't dive straight
into it - instead continue the foreplay with massage, sexy underwear
and erotic talk.
Have fun
The most important thing to remember is that sex is supposed to be fun. Experiment with toys, lingerie and lubricants - anything that makes the experience of lovemaking more fun.
In a survey conducted by Johnson & Johnson, 56% of K-Y® Brand Ultra Gel® users say it is something they enjoy using with their partner. Furthermore, 50% of users say it makes intimacy more fun! (source: K-Y® Brand Consumer Study U.S., June 2006)
You can also spice it up with K-Y® Yours + Mine®! The first couples lubricants with a warming invigorating sensation for him, and a thrilling tingling sensation for her. Put the two together for a totally new, unexpected experience.
